so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 4:48pm
I am pretty sure this person also said she was a school teacher and some what of an expert of day care as a researcher. All could be true but you know what? For all we know she is a man with no children and time on his hands. You just never know eh? Things are not adding up for me though.
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 5:29pm
Excellent post.
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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 5:50pm

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I disagree.

 

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 6:07pm
You seem to have missed my point completely but that is ok.
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 6:17pm

< think that if you are only working for "things" you are showing your children that is what is important in life.>

One of the "things" I work for, is a fully funded college education at the school of their choice, whether its a trade school or Ivy League university. Education is very important to us, and, therefore a priority saving. Sorry, no mcmansions, no new luxury cars, just a hundreds of thousand dollars set aside to fund their necessary, imo, higher education. Its a value that both my and dh parents had, and we both benefitted from their commitment to our education.

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 7:27pm

If it's so irrefutable, how come you haven't replied to any of my posts about it? If you don't answer this time, I'm just going to assume that you know you're wrong.

Please point out to me where I said that SAH was not the better choice for me.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:36pm
I find this question a bit funny coming from you. You've said that you quit working before your first child was even born, and you've often said that you don't believe that anyone would work unless there was a financial need to work. Why would it surprise you that someone who didn't need to work financially would choose not to, regardless of whether she felt that SAH was *better* for her kids?
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 9:54pm

iyo,is the only way to *value* an education to fund it? fwiw,my parents valued education. dad's undergraduate was earned at west point and he went on to pursue a masters and teach...that influenced me and all of my siblings to pursue post high school degrees. but the only funding he and mom provided was primary parochial education,not college. dh and i value education very much,too but don't plan to provide full college rides,either.




Edited 8/24/2007 10:16 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 11:01pm
You are exactly right -- I mentioned the same thing a week or two ago. Totally judgemental.
Interesting how judgemental and I think self rightous some people get around this and other topics.
I'm with you, I leave the judgemental calls to a higher authority.
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Sun, 08-26-2007 - 8:09am
CYE.

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