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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Yes. We. Did.
There are in fact quite a few SAHMs on this board. But they do not neccessarily think the sah is the best thing for every family. I am a sahm becasue it is thebest option for *MY* family based on our unique set of financial awareness, financial planning, parents and children's individual personalities, our personal expereinces and perspectives, availability of high quality daycare and flexibility of my old and my DH's current job.
Dual woh families can raise fantastic, well adjusted healthy and smart children- just as woh/sah families and every option the lies between can.
"I personally don't want my kids to think that they have to have nice expensive "things" to be important. "
"I want my children to know that they can enjoy life without being rich. That is something that I find very important. If you are doing a job you love and can still be there for your children than that is great."
I TOTALLY agree!!!!!!!!! But what does it have to do with sah or woh?
People work for things besides money. They work for pleasure. They work for satifaction. They work to keep up their licenses. THey work for friendships. THey work because it fits fine into their family's functionality.
< only way to *value* an education to fund it>
Of course not. I will fund it because I have made the commitment to saving for it as part of our qol life financial plan. If I couldn't fund it, I would still encourage it with the same passion we do today. My children will get college tuition and R&B paid by us to any college of their choice; that's an important part of the equation for me. They can choose what's best for them based on their interests, not on what's financially feasible for us or them. I, personally, did not have that choice, though I went to a very good university, it was not my first choice based solely on financial reasons.
I am also fortunate enough to have made sensible and lucrative investments when they handing out those crazy bonuses in high tech in the 90s. We don't see those bonuses anymore, but those investments will fund just about any college choice for our children, without impacting our current lifestyle and retirement investments. We could have bought the Lexuses or the mcmansion with those funds, but future college was the top investment priority at the time.
So I do realize I'm fortunate to have the funds and my children will have the privelege not available to many others.
>Don't complain but continue working because you need to live in that million dollar home.<
Not that I agree with. Complaining without changing it is wasteful and complaining about what can't be changed is useless.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
God that's too funny:) Seriously though -- based on some women's views here I'd have to say yes;)
But don't tell my DH that -- as he's an ex Aussie rugby player, about as masculine as they come without being obnoxious, and he's an absolutely wonderful SAHD to our children.
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