so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 05-08-2004
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:48am

I'm not sure why this is always referred to as a debate in the media. Who is debating? Every woman has to decide what works best for her and her family. It isn't like there is some argument and whoever wins gets to decide what each mom will do.

And who really cares what other moms choose to do? Men don't all choose the same career. Why should women all make the same career or non-career choices?

Amy
Mom to 3
www.sofiabean.com

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 6:23am

Ha! I worked my way through college and I do NOT want my children paying for college. My parents do not want my children paying for college.

My parents tried to help but I went to a really good and expensive university. They both told me repeatedly that they hope I save and save so that my girls do not have to work as much to get through school.

I really reagret not being able to enjoy the colelge experience more b.c I was always eith working or studying. I had no time to participate or join anything.

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 5:37pm

Just itching to point out that this ever-lasting "women's rights" movement in the US seems to have thoroughly screwed over the fundamental sense of family.
Being female, I find it utterly disgusting that moms genuinely think to have a good life with a sense of purpose means having a paycheck to cash. It's become quite apparent in the past few decades, particularly since the "burn the bra" movement, that a good home life is meaningless next to dollar signs.

Shame on working moms who don't NEED to work---You're throwing away the most important, crucial years of you and your kids lives----birth through 18.

My November baby wanted to be a December baby instead!

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 5:44pm

BWAHAHAHAHAH.

New here are you?

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 5:53pm
No, read the whole thread for a while now, just felt like chiming in.

My November baby wanted to be a December baby instead!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 5:58pm
Oh boo hoo don't cry down my back for our lost sense of womanhood...you'll rust my spurs

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 08-08-2006
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 6:00pm
Oh my. I may comment later, but I have to get Ward to have a talk with the Beaver.
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 6:03pm
Might not be the 50's anymore, but at LEAST women in the 50's had good family values.

My November baby wanted to be a December baby instead!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 6:06pm
ah yes I so long for the days when housework was done in crinolines and pearls -- well, my daughter's godfathers put on pumps to vacuum - they say it makes the work go faster... guess they still have those old fashioned values.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 6:17pm
Well I'm glad that you've thoroughly thought it through. Or at least trusted Dr. Laura to.

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