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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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The media, that's who. They have to stir things up for ratings, lol
Actually, IRL, this is debated. Well, not debated, the other side just slammed.
When I worked part time, I was bored and joined a moms group. These women were NASTY WRT WM's. To hear half of them talk, we were doing something personally to them. I would just sit there and listen and then let drop I work. They'd either go all appologies or give me the brush off.
From what I've seen there are SAHM's out there who feel a need to justify what they do and they do that by putting down WM's. I have an estranged sister who is one of them. Nothing nice to say to WM's and we got tired of her telling our kids how sorry she feels for them because we work, hence the estranged part. The group of SAHM's she runs with is like minded. I think the media plays up to the radicals.
Of course on the other side, you have Gloria Stienem, lol. While I know WM's who wonder why women SAH (I'm one of them. I just don't see a need for SAH and see a lot of damage done by women SAH WRT equality in the home, equality in parentin and women preparing for their financial futures.), I don't hear them putting down SAHM's like I've heard SAHM's put down WM's.
What's really funny to watch is when a radical SAHM has to become a WM. So far, I haven't heard one appologize for what she said as a SAHM. They just seem to forget all about it and go to work.
My dd, sadly, has a friend who went through a real crisis when her mom got a job. The poor girl grew up being told that mothers who love their children SAH. Then mom got a job and this mom couldn't figure out why this upset her daughter.
"Shame on working moms who don't NEED to work---You're throwing away the most important, crucial years of you and your kids lives----birth through 18."
Throwing them away? Howso?
Hate to tell you this, my kids are 9 and 12 and I've worked since dd#1 was 10 weeks old, by choice, and I haven't missed or thrown a year away yet.
Get over yourself.
So do women today. What does our working status have to do with family values? Please expain how parents who work lack family values and when you're done, tell me why you married someone and had kids with him when he lacks family values.
Prior to the 1950's, moms worked and they worked hard. It might be the family farm or helping her dh with a family business or even working as a servent in a wealthy household. It's only been recently that women had the luxury of not working and that's not exactly a family value.
Personally, I'm glad family values have changed since the 1950's. In the 1950's when my father beat my mother, the police called it drunken disorderly on his own property and left. Used to be ok to beat your wife and kids. Everyone would look away if you did. Great family value there, lol.
No thanks. I'll pass.
wow. I feel like I've just been puked on....UGH. feel better now???? FWIW, (not that you have ANY interest in any real dialogue), i've created a wonderful home-life for my kids AND managed to woh at the same time (oh, for like the last 16 YEARS).
personally, I'm appalled you'd put in print something so incredibly rude, vicious and ignorant.
Carole
do good family values include making sure the kids had adequate care while i worked today? putting dinner on the table and sitting down as a family most nights of the week? going to orientation night at dd's school tonight and ds' school tomorrow night? going to religious school orientation next week? how about a family birthday party on Mon. night for ds' birthday?
Yeah, no family values here.....I guess I just could have stayed home tonight.
Carole
More mothers worked outside the house in the 1950's than were sahms - most especially women of color. Frankly, I know no person of color that yearns for the 1950's of Jim Crow and segragated schools. White college education women we frequently forced to quit jobs when they married or at the very least when they become pregnant. Plus, nearly everyone smoked- really great for their child's lungs.
Sorry, I'll take the present, warts and all.
Edited 8/29/2007 8:55 pm ET by janetlynn_64
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