so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 6:52am

. "They felt entitled to enjoy life."

Having also read "Backlash", "The Second Sex" and "The Feminine Mystique" I think you paint an accurate historical picture of how the role of motherhood has been altered over time, however I disagree with the last sentence.

We are ALL entitled to enjoy life. All of us, rich, poor, black, white, 3rd world, etc. etc. Life SHOULD be enjoyed. if not why live it? I don't agree with this martyr complex of slogging through life grim with responsibility. We all have responsibilities of course! But why make it so freaking SERIOUS? As I tell Liza "why BE if you can't be funny?" I feel 100% entitled to enjoy my life -- I work hard and I should be able to so I do!

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 7:42am
huh? none of my examples are glue sticked to sah or woh,gr8tful.

 

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 7:44am

Sure they did.


God bless you please, Mrs. Robinson.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 7:45am

How does this relate to my post?

I will just assume your are out for a troll and ignore the post.

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 7:50am

What if the sense of entitlement stems from being the center of Mommy's universe for 18 years?

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 8:05am

I don't know about "we" generally, but women of my generation are most certainly better off than both their mothers' and grandmothers' generations were. We can control our reproductive lives. We no longer die frequently in childbirth. We have full access to education, voting rights and all other rights. We can live independently if we so choose.

My dh is from a society that is still more traditional and patriarchal then the one I grew up in. I once asked him if he felt at all bothered by the fact that he had only a dd and no sons. His answer was that it did not bother him in the least, because not only was he very proud of his dd, but moreover he knew that she would be able to do anything she liked and would not be limited by her sex.

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 8:06am
Thank you.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 8:18am
I think so, just ask any woman of color.
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Registered: 07-18-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 8:26am

If you're referring to my DS1, we don't lend him a car.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 8:36am

"Moon Zappa has neglected to mention that she and her DH are paying tuition, room and board for their 2 children for college. Maybe not the full tuition, but something along those lines ~ and it includes every penny you have paid all by yourself for college."


On what planet did this occur?

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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