so sick of hearing....

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:14am
Or any homosexual. Or any woman (or man) that has been an abused spouse.
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Registered: 07-08-2001
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:33am

In other words, I am woman, hear me meow?


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Registered: 07-08-2001
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:34am

Oh Wilma, you always know just what to say.


Love,


Betty


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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:35am

I agree with your post except for the last sentence: "They felt entitled to enjoy life.". I firmly believe that we are entitled to enjoy life. As the Founding Fathers put it: "the pursuit of happiness". Not that happiness/enjoyment is guarenteed; but that we are to pursue it/strive for it/reach for it/whatever phrase you want to use. Life is to be enjoyed; otherwise why live it? Besides people who are catered to all their lives aren't happy and don't enjoy life, imo.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:38am
sing it sistah chris -- just what I said! Why be here if you're not gonna have fun and enjoy it -- I ain't no puritan into flogging myself in the name of the greater glory that awaits me in the next life LOL

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:40am

Hey, I do believe in the greater glory in the hereafter. But God also created us to enjoy this life in the here and now. :)

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:41am
oh me too -- but I'm not going to martyr myself or be grim about all my responsibility and miss a chance to laugh long loud and hard on a daily basis either...

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:04am

what does *coated by a sleuth* mean? Or did you mean *slew*? A sleuth is a detective and I dont know why they would be investigating prescription drugs.

Oh and I think that we are MUCH better off today than in years past.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:07am

I'm sorry, you feel that way about others.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:07am

Me either. Life is way too short for that.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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