so sick of hearing....

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:08am

Such as?


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:08am
Well put!

Mary



Mom to Kevin 11/4/03



Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You'll realize this as soon as they are born, and they start using sleep deprivation to break you.



Ray Romano, actor/comedian

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:10am

Yes, we are.


Take a look at the history books.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:11am

I don't often agree with you, but I do agree with this.


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PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:12am

Hey, without that "behavior problems coated by a sleuth of other rx (not always valium anymore)", Erica wouldn't be alive now. Hell yes, we are better off today than in the past.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:27am

thanks for the correction. i'm a bit puzzled as to why you wouldn't have caught the context too,though.......i was responding to submissive moms popping valium not being a good example for children. while i understand her post,our society is in no better shape,probably even more dangerous place wrt values and raising good,decent children. generally speaking.




Edited 8/30/2007 11:38 am ET by egd3blessed

 

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 12:12pm

I don't get that. Because all I see all around, with very few exceptions, are good, decent children.

And, working on a college campus, I see tons of more than good, more than decent young adults. Some of the things I see from the students here amaze me ... in a wonderful way.

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 12:24pm

I agree with you. Tuesday morning was Liza's first day of school and I was loitering on the playground with some of the other moms taking photos and chatting and Liza's principal came up to say hello to us and chat a bit. One of the things she said was "you know...there is not ONE kid in this school that I think "oh boy i can't wait until that one is gone" ...not one. These are the nicest kids I could ever hope to have as my students"

I keep wondering where all these self centered wild miscreants are...

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 12:32pm

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Are you basing this on your personal experience because, I disagree, I see a lot of good, decent children who are being raised with good values.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 12:33pm

I agree.


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