so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:10pm

We aren't entitled to anything other than to, eventually, die.

The point is, they felt entitled to enjoy their lives rather than accomplish something. They felt owed. Which is why they acted as they did.

I see this in today's youth too. Very stronly as a matter of fact. The sense of entitlement (due to over indulgence in my book) has hit all time highs. Young people today want pats on the back just for getting out of bed.

I hate to burst your bubble but we are owed nothing in life. Not even enjoyment. It's nice if we get it but very much a luck of the draw thing. No one owes it to us to make our lives enjoyable. NO ONE. We can WORK towards that goal and that is respectable but just going out and partying because we're owed enjoyment is a problem.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:10pm
that's nice..from the posts i've read you write about liza,you're raising her right.

 

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:12pm

So who owes it to us to make sure we enjoy life? Last time I looked, no one was guaranteeing anything besides, eventual, death.

Enjoyment is nice and no one has the righ to stand in the way of someone elses enjoyment but it's not owed to us. Life is what life is. We make the best of it.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:14pm
So? The whole kids are the center of the family thing has done way more harm than good and this is, traditionally, attached to those old fashioned (you know the ones that existed for about 10 years out of all history, lol) family values. Children are now made the center of the family and used to justify mom not working. Yeah, that's a problem.
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:15pm
Women in general. When my mom tried to get help fleeing my abusive father, she was treated like she was his property. I think we're all better off today.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:21pm
yes, we are much better of now than previous generations. everything you listed are things that are caused by the parents who were raised in those previous generations that were supposed to be so great - hmmmm........ but when you balance even those things against the myriad of things that are bettter we still live in a much better time.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:26pm

But I'm not, mine aren't being raised with consistent standards because we use a second income to pay for some thing?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:26pm
i totally agree. what i see with few exceptions are well behaved, well mannered kids who have a great sense of what it means to be part of a family and a community. i realize there are kids who are bad, but they are such a minority, but because of the media people tend to think they are all kids. you rarely see stories about kids who are doing better in school than any previous generation, kids who are volunteering in their communities in numbers never before seen, kids who are working multiple jobs, kids who are just good kids, etc.... i guess it doesnt make for good news and tends to upset the stereotypical applecart of people who want to believe we live in such awful times.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:31pm
i so disagree with you. generally speaking it is much easier to raise good, decent kids with great morals - and one of the main reasons is that society now can accept that being a white heterosexual is not the only way to be a good decent kid with good values.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 1:32pm
"Entitled" may the wrong word here. IMO, we have a responsibility to enjoy life. If we are not enjoying our lives, we have a responsibility to do what we can to make our lives better. Sometimes we can only find small joys for ourselves, but we should still find those.

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