so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 2:21pm

Wow, you really believe the dual wohp's are the root of all that is wrong with the world?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 2:23pm

*snort* I suppose no single-income earners have EVER defaulted on a loan.

*BAER*

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 2:38pm
i don't believe it's entirely separated by work status,no but my grasp is this society of which feels more entitled than ever before...defend all you want that woh is so much better because it provides what is important for you and your family........but channel that 30 years ago,and what mattered more was having less and more of the the sahp. children grew up just fine.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 2:38pm
enjoyment isn't just "going out and partying" enjoyment is savoring life, taking the time to say "god that was an amazing day at the beach. or wow. that was a tough day at work but I really got a lot done. or 'mmmmm..that's the best cookie dough ice cream ever' you're right no one 'owes it to us' but for ME it is an absolute must. a necessity. without living big and laughing out loud there's not much to keep me going.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 08-08-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 2:44pm
30 years ago was disco era. I rest my case.
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Registered: 08-14-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 2:50pm

Bravo! And I'll add Enjoying life is being in a marriage/relationship where you feel valued and you're HAPPY to go home to that person every day. Enjoying life is being able to involve yourself in causes -- like my local children's museum -- that are important and meaningful. Enjoying life is being able to spend quality time with your possibly terminally ill parent. Enjoying life is being able to take the stress off a friend in a financially difficult time by floating them a loan ...

I think you and I could write a sleuth of these.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 2:52pm
peace and bell bottoms,too.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 3:01pm
that's what i enjoy about here,too.....the arguing humors me esp when it's taken to the level of correcting my grammar. ;)

 

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Registered: 07-08-2001
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 3:01pm

Have I told you lately that I love you? ;-)


My DH is the same way and it rubs off on me. Anyone remember that episode of Friends with Alec Baldwin (I think), the annoyingly optimistic guy? Santa Claus on Prozac? DH isn't that bad, thankfully, but he's got an amazing way of looking at the little things.

Mary



Mom to Kevin 11/4/03



Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You'll realize this as soon as they are born, and they start using sleep deprivation to break you.



Ray Romano, actor/comedian

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 3:05pm

Please read my other post. I was talking about kids who go out and party and then chastized for saying that thinking we should just go out and enjoy life is wrong.

However, we are not owed or entitled to enjoy life. Life is life. No one owes use enjoyment and the search of personal enjoyment is not the be all end all of life.

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