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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Who are you speaking for here? It surely isn't my kids or me. In fact, ds' enthusiasm for things is tied to the all mighty C12H22O11 -- the sugar molecule. ;)
Let me be crystal clear: my happiness is just as important as my childrens'.
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good for you and your dh. if you're trying to address something about moms back then living only for their child's happiness,i think you're wrong. mom had her bowling league,dad had/has his poker. they went out together and we had a babysitter whom i disliked too,lol. but we didn't have extra "things" which is huge today.......and honestly,i do feel like i deprive my kids sometimes of happiness because i feel it's being measured to the friend who has the fancy cell phone (insert psp,other fancy "thing"). i won't buy into that and hope one day,my kids can understand why just like i learned,too.
p.s. all the sahms i know do return to woh to some capacity after their kids start school or,through the years,i watched some form moms groups at church....i don't believe either is evidence they're doing it to find a happiness that was lost sah,though.
Edited 8/30/2007 4:35 pm ET by egd3blessed
I doubt you have seen the movie "Maxed Out". Watch it.
One of the points in the movie is that it's the NECESSITIES that are wiping families out these days..not the WANTS, as you and others like you seem to think. The majority of families NEED two incomes to survive.
I think any woman who *wants* to sah and is fortunate enough to do so and live comfortably in the meantime, should thank their lucky stars that they have someone who can foot the bill for them.
Sue
Edited 8/30/2007 4:42 pm ET by srmagoo
<<but i do believe children like me and others were happier because times were simpler and rewards/enthusiasm for things wasn't tied to a mighty dollar like it is today. >>
You tie rewards/enthusiasm to money with your kids?
PumpkinAngel
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