so sick of hearing....

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Registered: 01-07-2004
so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 8:58pm
Do you really think people in general are that different now? What gives you the impression that you were happier than children who had WOHPs? I have no doubt you were happy, but I'm wondering how you know about everyone else.
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:05pm
Oh yeah, who can forget those. They even tax you after you die, lol.
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:06pm
What passes for good morals these days is a lot more liberal than was in the past. I think that's a good thing but I would suppose that those who want to go back to the days of oppression would not.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:15pm
Yes, I suppose you are right. I never really equated "don't have sex until you're married" with good morals, so that's changed, but it doesn't make morals worse IMO. If you (general) are one to still believe in some of those types of morals, then today would certainly seem less moral. I believe that when speaking of the things that matter (being kind to others, helping others, etc.) it is probably better today.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:33pm

My mother didn't do anything for herself until we were much older and then it was one evening once a month playing bridge.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:38pm

I think the good morals of the 50s more likely dictated "getting pregnant outside of wedlock results in a shotgun wedding . . ."


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Registered: 08-08-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:03pm

I can only say you'd probably be happier if you looked at the positive. I know all the girls in my dd's 7th grade, some have cells, most don't. I think we're getting pretty close to getting her a cell, because I'm having trouble keeping up with her busy afterschool schedule and I'm a bit of a spaceshot about when I'm supposed to pick her up. I have no idea who has playstations and other gadgets in my childrens' classes, but they are polite, well-behaved wonderful kids that I've known since they were in kindergarten. If there was a bad apple in the bunch, my children would be able to recognize it and act accordingly.

Why would I care about what other people have? It does not in anyway affect how I raise my children, who lack many things that, in your experience, their peers may have.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:39pm

No, but it makes it easier to fit what is considered good, lol.

We're also more tolerant of differences. It's easier to be nice to others if you're not sitting in judgement of them.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:57pm

A couple of friends and you dd equals children and society in general?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 12:10am
you dont need to apologize but you might need to get out more or hang with a different group of people. i dont know any kids in elementary school who have a cell phone for show or for any other reason. my kids certainly get things on occassion if they "earn" them, so what is so wrong with that.

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