so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 8:41am
What she and others don't seem to realize is that in the 50's you may have had to stay with him. In many stated the laws reguarding the grounds for divorce were very limited, sometims limited to physical abuse, abandonment and adulty. Being treated like s**t (emotional abuse) was not grounds for divorce.
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 8:51am
Or children. I know where I come from they used to be forced to work in the coal mines. Granted stuff like this still happens somewhere in the world.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 8:55am
that was my dad's line,too..i haven't used it yet but plan to. lol.

 

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 9:00am
I agree I think, just as one example, we are raising children to be more accepting of others than in the recent past. To me that is a good value.
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 9:03am

yeah. i went from dual-wohp to single-earner status because it was "convenient" and easier.....

Carole

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 9:05am
I don't think anyone was saying someone owes it to them to allow them to enjoy life. I think the idea is that you owe it to yourself to make yourself happy. Otherwise why be here? It is a state of mind that can be accomplished in meager surroundings. Inner peace happiness that sort of thing. Some people give up all their material possessions to find it.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 9:33am

what i find interesting is the use of the word,"stigma".

stigma is as alive today and a reason why ppl don't take charge of something as it was then. some people choose to apply that to kids and sped,for example........i suppose if i was so afraid of the stigma of special ed,i would have never allowed my child to be placed on an iep. thankfully,she's ready to be dismissed from it for speech because of the wonders it's provided. there are others,and i'll wager LOTS,that would never dream of going down this path because of the "stigma" of special ed.

you can either chose to let stigma control you or not.




Edited 8/31/2007 10:03 am ET by egd3blessed

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 9:58am

Do you really think that since women had few choices and rights, that they were happier?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:00am

Well said.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-08-2001
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:07am

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