so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:08am

I have never heard of a stigma surrounding special ed, usually it's highly reported to be a wonderful thing, a godsend, etc.....Perhaps the negative view of the world today that is being posted is based on a very small experience and in really doesn't reflect the world at large?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:23am
i really wonder if you know the people you portray on here or if you are just reciting rhetoric. i dont know one person who ever got divorced because it was convienient
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:24am
maybe. or maybe ppl escape an area for private schools and fuel stigma in different ways. after all,saying i'm glad my children aren't in the public school pretty much fits the crime of stigma,too. ymmv.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:31am

<< or maybe ppl escape an area for private schools and fuel stigma in different ways. >>


What exactly are you implying here?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:32am
i dont think so. there are many reasons to put a child in private school. when we were in texas thre was no way my child was goign to be in that public school system for very long, she was there for one year and that was long enough for us. it had nothing to do with stigma but everything to do with reality. there public schools were not a good fit for her. where we are now the public schools are a great fit for at least the two who are in school,, but that is because we had kids when we moved here and schools was our top priority when choosing to live here. when we lived in texas we bought our house long before we had kids adn did not put emphasis on the schools and the ones where we lived just werent filling the educational needs of the child we had in them, so we went private for 4 years, tried the public schools for 1 year andthen got the hell out.
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:34am

You're saying that more men & women didn't stay together in decades past "for the sake of the children"? You never heard that expression??

And that now couples don't stay together for the sake of the children. I'm sure that's probably progress, actually. I'm just taking exception with the idea that parents are so much more child-focused TODAY. I think we parents care for ourselves now more than previous decades. It's the opposite of Gr8tful's position.

And a big *What in the World* about your whole Title VII review! What does that have to do with divorce skyrocketing now? Divorce then involved alimony until remarriage. Yes, you could sue in court for unpaid alimony and, if one's ex-husband hid his assets/income, then women in the 1950s would get a job just like divorced women do today. Where in the world were you going with any of that, Counselor?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:36am

Exactly, no school system

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:37am

Very valid reasons to divorce. I think it is progress and wonderful. But did you never hear the expression that men & women in the 1950s would stay together solely for the sake of the children?

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:38am
OMG. I hope the remaining posts to me aren't such irrelevant tangents. Did you even read my post to Gr8tful??? Ughh.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:39am

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I disagree, the term helicopter parent was coined in the last 10 or so years for a reason.


PumpkinAngel

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