so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:44am
Isn't that the theory behind the Twice Exceptional child - the child has special needs which Special Ed routinely handles, but the parent believes the child should actually be in the Gifted program?
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:56am

you've shared some mighty strong opinions about tx schools in general based on your own experiences only so i'm confused by your statement..i think kids who excel in schools do so because of their attitudes and stepping up to the plate themselves. when we decide for them that a school isn't some *right* fit for them,we've created a stigma esp when we present it with,getting the he$$ out or i'm glad my kids aren't in public schools.

and btw,do tell me. are school standards really based on your your child's individual needs now? how about private schools? standards aren't based on one *individual* esp if the enrollment is say,600. private schools,catholic schools might have standards independent of public school but they're still standards expected to be met nonetheless. wouldn't you agree?




Edited 8/31/2007 11:17 am ET by egd3blessed

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:02am
The only place I have come across that attitude, that sped is embarrassing and stigmatizing, is in Greece. When it comes to special needs, Greece is still very far behind the US and the rest of Europe. You might say Greece is where those other countries were, say, back in the 50s.
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Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:03am

Not that I am aware, but then again

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:07am

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Why are is this limited to only children who excel in schools?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:07am
There is no "theory" behind the term "twice exceptional," nor does it have anything to do with what the parents "believe." "Twice exceptional" is simply a term used to describe gifted children who have LDs.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:13am

What if the kid excels in ways the school can't deal with? What if the kid not only meets, but goes way beyond the standards?

What if the school does not teach subjects the parents consider essential, forcing the parents to either home school extensively on top of the regular school day or hire expensive tutors?

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:22am

school doesn't force a thing. if you don't like it,move on. but don't blame school for what you think your child can't deal with....these school debates in the past sometimes included the words,"my kid was bored there.." as reasons public school weren't good enough. boredom is a feeling not responsibility for ANY school to fix.




Edited 8/31/2007 11:24 am ET by egd3blessed

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:22am
It was not a tangent. Lauren is questioning your assumptions. Read the posts again.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:26am
where did you comd up with i thought school standards need to be tailored to my child - that is just silly. but as with everything in life thee are good and not so good choices, and for my oldest, texas public schools were not meeting her needs,nor were the where i wanted her to get her education.
i had less then good experiences with the texas public schools and i am not a parent who is going to leave my kids for long in a situation that i do not feel is appropriate for them. my 4 year old was going to a private preschool here last year, he was scheduled to return this year, i do not feel it is the best fit for him so i have pulled him out and put him into a different program.
for me it is important that my kids get the best education possible, yes, alot of that is dependant up them "stepping up to the plate" but there is something to be said for getting them into a situation that best suits them and they have the best opportunity to do that.
i am sure there are plenty of good schools in texas, both public and private. as i have said before i did not like the emphasis placed on the nclb testing that was done at least in all the schools in our district. i have friends still there and they say nothing has changed, the testing is still the overriding concern of the schools there and they start working towards it from day one of school. you know we do testing here as well, we get a note about a week before the testing telling us to give the kdis a good breakfast and dont schedule any appointments for that time adn that is the only time it si discussed, for our kids it s just another day at school, not something they have geared up to all year with pull out testing practice, weeks of taking practice tests, etc..... there is no pressure on the kdis at all. it is just different adn what i prefer for my kids

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