so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 1:55pm

Speaking for myself, I've never known a SAHM to want to return to WOH. It was for financial reasons.

Didn't your Mother SAH until you were in law school? Why would she not get a job, year after year, decade after decade if she didn't enjoy SAH?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 1:57pm
All states must implement testing, in order to comply with NCLB. How individual states do that differs quite a bit. It also differs from district to district. The differences generally have to do with how much class time is devoted to prepping kids for the tests.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:03pm
It is often difficult to be sure exactly what you are saying, but several of your posts certainly came across as suggesting strongly that jkuhnke's children could not somehow hack it in public school.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:05pm
Anecdata again?
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:19pm

i know alot of people who have moved their kids from one type of school to another or from one public school to another - but of course i live in a state that has open enrollment, meaning i can send my child to any school in the state as long as i am prepared to get them there. my oldest was in montessori but going into it i had no idea if it would be a good fit for her our not, turned out for her it was, for my middle child i dont think it would have been but since we never tried it i will never know for sure. we just had several families decide to pull their kids, ranging in grade level from k-8th out of the local catholic school and enroll them in the public school. people do change thier minds adn or it is determined that students needs can be better met elsewhere.

i know alot of kids who start at one college and transfer to another.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:27pm

You have got to be kidding me.LOL

FTR - I know of no one who in present times even *sees* any sort of stigma attached to special ed, much less anyone who would not have their child receive services they needed.

So do you believe that all the issues that society is more open about and accepting of (for example, domestic violence, homosexuality, disability, to name a few) just didn't exist back in the good old days, or do you think that perhaps people feel freer to discuss them and improve what they can? Do you not think that the removal of the stigmas attached to them is part of what has given us that freedom?


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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:30pm
i have no bias against public schools in general, my kids attend public schools. i am a huge proponent of public schools in general. you need to remember, when i am talking about texas schools my dd was there for 4th grade, she is a senior in high school this year, so it was several years ago. according to my firends who still have kids in school there not much as changed but i dont know from first hand experience. attitude does have a role in how kids do in school but it is certainly not the only consideration. i have no problem with standardized testing, my kids always score very well on them. what i did not like in texas was the total immersion in the testing atmosphere. also remember we were in texas when nclb was a state mandate not a federal one. for me and texas schools, and i say texas schools because it was a policy coming down from the texas dept of education, not hte local school, the last straw was when the principal of our school told a group of parents to keep their kids home on test day if they felt they wouldnt test well and when i personally was told that the reason the gore/bush election was not discussed in any way in school was because it was not going to be on the test so there was no time to waste talking about it in school. our current schools do state testing, they have standards, but they also recognize that there is more to educating a child than preparing them to take a test. although they must do pretty well at that too, i read the other day our students had the second highest average act score of any state.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:30pm

i don't know that it's a month here. but schools do acknowledge the importance of standard testing and do prepare iwht homework drills,etc...does your boys school have standard testing? if yes,how is it administered? the catholic/private schools here aren't immune from standard testing. i have a friend whose children are at the catholic school. it's a strict,exhausting week long focus,too.

maybe just me but i really don't see a problem with spending a month on standard testing,though..there's still 8 months out of the school year to get fantastic,quality school work in separate of that state mandated testing.

 

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:30pm

I have, and I have also heard some of their children express regret that their parents stayed together for that reason.

LOL...for that matter, bump it ahead a few years and I *am* one of their children.


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Registered: 11-22-2000
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:32pm

Oh well, I'm sure you'll survive if you think they *are*.

And yes, I did read it. Otherwise, I wouldn't have responded to it.


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