so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:16pm
no. again,that implys blame on the school system. and that's just not true. there are highly intelligent children in public schools w/o gt placement doing just fine...ime from friends i know,kids in private/parochial school are there for reasons independent of public school finger pointing.

 

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:17pm
Good point! In this instance, I agree with how my federal tax dollars are being spent - Special Ed. But the gifted thing is so ridiculous.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:17pm

My mother, when we were in high school. And she now tells me she wished she had worked part time much earlier!

Me if you count 14 months of SAH.

My two best friends. One just went back to work, her youngest is 3. The other went back when her twins were 4.

I've known quite a few SAHMs who have happily gone back to work! I know more still who would like to, but don't know what they could do now that they've been out of the work force for some time......

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:19pm
What's not true? If the school system isn't providing a child with an appropriate education, then it's not the right place for the child. I want more for my children than just allowing them to "do fine" in a system that might not be right for them. I want them to thrive, not just float along.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:19pm
You disagree that public schools should offer GT? I'm so glad our county totally disagrees with you.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:20pm

When you say nothing more to the gifted child, what do you mean?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:22pm
In addition to the several posters who have here agreed they are familiar with the saying too? Are you doubting their veracity? I wonder why....
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:24pm

The public school system is what is,

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:24pm

But, but, but, there's nothing to agree or disagree with me about.

I mentioned that the saying existed. People did stay together for the sake of the children; no one hears that saying today. End of story. Gr8tful was incorrect that society is more child-focused today.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 4:25pm

Totally agree.

PumpkinAngel

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