so sick of hearing....

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Registered: 01-07-2004
so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 5:49pm

And you didn't return to work for the money? That was the inference earlier on.

Just curious.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 5:53pm
Because it makes all of our lives much easier.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 5:56pm

well, when my kids have been in elementary school they have not had the option of choosing which classes they take, i would agree that once you get to high school the gt program becomes less structured because it is an option to take more challenging courses. if a gt student is not being educated to their potential than yes, they are beign neglected, just as a sped child would be neglected if htey were not being taught to their potential. sorry you think teaching to a childs potential is only important for one segment of the school population. i just see it differently.

the only message i gave my child when we switched schools was that we were moving halfway acros the country and wouldnt be able to carpool her to her old school. so do you really think schools are never to blame for anything? i mean our schools are pretty outstanding but they are far from perfect.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 5:57pm
In order to meet the needs of the gifted, it would not be "regular" instruction. How would the rest of the kids keep up in a situation like that, i.e. a situation in which the regular instruction is geared to the gifted?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 5:59pm
Actually, isn't that sort of the whole point of education in the first place?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 5:59pm
So I should blame God and be ungrateful because I have a child with a disability and it makes our lives more complex?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 6:02pm
Again, your comprehension is somewhat faulty.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 6:04pm

i couldnt disagree more. my childrens education matters from day one. the opportunities she had in elementary and middle school are what created her love of learning, her enthusiasim for school, and put her in a position to be able to take alot of the classes she took in high school. you send a child to school for 7-8 years where they are never challenged, never given the opportunity t excel at their own pace by the time you get to high school you probably have a kid who hates school or thinks its a waste of time.

i dont want to be appeased i want my child to get the best education that her abilities allow - fortunately that hasnt been a problem. please tell me i didnt just read that you think planting bulbs in the town square is more important than a childs education?

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 6:08pm
i dont get a paycheck and probably spend more hours volunteering each week than alot people work at a paying job. if i wasnt able to volunteer i would go back to work adn it wouldnt be for the money.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 6:12pm

You seemed to think that things were better back when there were no GT programs. You also wondered how kids did fine without GT programs back in the day.

There was no personal attack there. You freely admitted that you know little of GT and SPED.

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