so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 6:14pm
i was wondering the same thing. i am pretty up on nclb having lived under it as a state mandate and as a federal mandate and i dont see how it really addresses the needs of sped kids in the least.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 6:23pm
True enough, but I was even just wondering how SPED was somehow a reason for NCLB to exist.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 6:47pm
As a child of parents who stayed together "for the kids", I can't even begin to imagine why in the world you would think this is a positive.
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 7:12pm

Some still do. My DD1 best friend in high school's parents divorced the summer after she graduated from high school.

The reason you do not hear much of "Staying together for the children" any more is because many people have realized that that is not always in the best interest of the children to stay toegther. Sometimes "Divorcing for the children" is a better choice.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 7:33pm
But you admit you're absolutely, 100% wrong. Or do still you claim it was legal to discriminate against women before Title VII?
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Fri, 08-31-2007 - 7:49pm

If my child made a commitment to a sports team, I would expect him to honor the commitment to finish the season, of course. If he got bored on the job, I suppose that he would quit and/or find a job that doesn't bore him. Why should he work at a boring job when there are fascinating ones out there?

A school is a whole different proposition. I don't know any parent who doesn't want his or her child to have the best possible education. I don't see why anyone should settle for a mediocre or unsuitable alternative when there are other options available.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 7:53pm
Yes, I think the gifted program appeases parents. Didn't you say your DD with the high IQ was skipped ahead a grade? Or was she in the gifted program? I thought you said that because my older DD was skipped ahead a grade too last year and it's worked out great. DH and I thoroughly researched the matter and was shocked how the gifted program here was simply a way to appease parents. It was simply a mountain of extra coursework and homework, a reduction of art and activities and just the plain fun of being in school. That can wait until high school! In the meantime, I would prefer my tax dollars continue to go to broaden the Special Ed programs we are ever enlarging here. And if any $ is left over, to planting bulbs in the town square. Yep.
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 7:59pm
Edited because I can't even begin to tell anyone how to reconcile a child's LD with her own religion. And I see now that's what you were questioning me about.


Edited 9/1/2007 10:55 am ET by sehorse
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Registered: 08-14-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 8:08pm

No I didn't. Nor have many of the other now-WOHMs that I know.

Sure, the money was nice and we spent it ... but we could have easily "made it" without my income.

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 8:12pm
Because funding and direction of the school is controlled by test scores, and the test scores are very unreliable. First of all, they judge "improvement" by testing one grade one year, and then testing the SAME GRADE the next year... so they are testing an entire different group of children, with entirely different demographics, and, like some schools here, entirely different concentrations of ESL children. If they are trying to measure improvement, they would have to measure the same children the next year, or they would have to take into account the differences in the groups of children. So schools are *penalized* for not discriminating.

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