so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:23am
Sure. I remember when want ads were divided into "help wanted male" and "help wanted female".
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:28am

I'm our firm's litigation partner, having spent the last 25 years specializing in labor and employment law. If you want to make the silly claim that sex-based employment discrimination was illegal 50 years before women had the right to vote, you'll have to provide some substantiation beyond your say-so.

And by the way, you mean Section 1981, not 1983 (which again, applies only to acts occurring under the color of state action). 1981 provides,

"All persons within the jurisdiction of the United States shall have the same right in every State and Territory to make and enforce contracts, to sue, be parties, give evidence, and to the full and equal benefit of all laws and proceedings for the security of persons and property as is enjoyed by white citizens, and shall be subject to the like punishment, pains, penalties, taxes, licenses, and exactions of every kind, and to no other."

Again, however, this only provides another avenue for enforcing EXISTING rights, and since women had very few rights at that point in time, and none in employment, it did nothing to outlaw employment discrimination based on sex.

Edited 9/1/2007 11:40 am ET by jorvia




Edited 9/1/2007 11:42 am ET by jorvia
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:29am
See below.
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:38am
You don't just play one on TV, you mean?
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 12:17pm
;-)
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 12:44pm
Well, there's the difference. I would never tell my children just to take the bad with the good if they could make the bad go away. If my local school doesn't offer all the things I want my kids to study, I can't hold the school accountable for the children's lack of knowledge in those areas. But I sure can find a school that does offer what I want them to learn, and that's what I have done.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 1:00pm
Private schools all think alike? You can't have looked at many of them if you have come to that conclusion! There are four or five private schools in my town, all of them different. Some as different as night and day!
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 1:03pm

You are right in that there are many selective private schools. The one I send my kids to deals with "average to above average learners." They do not have services available for kids with special needs, although they do have some special needs kids who can mostly be accomodated within the regular curriculum.

However, many larger school districts also have selective public schools for kids with special academic or artistic gifts. Some of those schools are more selective than Ivy League Colleges.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 1:05pm
How long ago is this "back in the day" anyway? There were Gifted programs in most districts where I was in school back in the day -- I was graduated from high school in 1974.
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 1:11pm
I've never seen an add like that -- in this country....but this program was amazing. I can't *imagine* being able to advertise by race, gender, and religion!
Oye vey;)

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