so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 7:46pm
Very very true.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 8:08pm
Well clearly, the facts of any debate don't matter much to this poster;)
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 8:37pm
you have my wheels turning now. lol. i'm thinking of the school for creative&performing arts that famed sara jessica parker attended in cincinnati. got it...my confusion lied with the notion though that public schools,in general can be as selective as private. and that's just not true. i can understand wanting a school for it's arts,vocational interst,christian education,montessori philosophy,too. what i take issue with is the public swap for private and feeding the stigma that public schools aren't good enough,that they dumb down (or insert other inflammatory comment about public school in general). that's just not true.

 

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 8:50pm

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I, who once sent my child to a *gasp* charter school, agree with you. It isn't true.

But, it also isn't true that anyone here has said such a thing. I haven't seen any poster here make inflammatory comments about public school in general or state that public schools in general aren't good enough.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 8:53pm

I agree. What I see here are all sorts of moms with all sorts of kids making the best choice they can with regards to schooling. sometimes it's the public school, sometimes parochial, sometimes private, sometimes magnet schools (honestly if there was a magnet school for the arts around here Liza would be there so fast her head would spin LOL), sometimes homeschooling, but I haven't heard one inflammatory statment about public schools in general. I'm a product of public schools, Liza will most likely be in public scchool at some point after 6th grade...I don't see the big deal either way. But then again I dont' see the big deal about alot of things that send other moms into the vapors...;-)

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 9:09pm

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You and me both honey.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 9:47pm

Yes, there was something to disagree about. You said:

"How is this huge increase in divorce anything but a very strong example that you're mistaken - people don't put their children first today?"

I disagree with the idea that she is mistaken.


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Registered: 07-17-2007
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:27pm
my dd was not in a gt program from k-3rd grade because she was at a montessori school where her education was self-paced, so while it was not called gt it was run pretty much the same way in that the kids were not held back, they were educated to their full potential. she was in a gt program from 4th-7th grade. in 8th grade she wasn ot but was already taking advanced math classes at the high school. at least in our school once the kids reach high school they are pretty much picking and choosing what they want to take and she has done fine with that. some children with high iqs will find their way others will not, i just dont believe it is appropriate to deprive any child of the best education possible and an education that meets their potential. other than on this board, from a couple of posters i have never met a parent who felt it was okay to just leave a child to find their way thru their education or who felt flowers would eve be more important than any childs education. i didnt realize 4 years was a brief foray but okay. just becuase you dont see a need doesnt mean one doesnt exist and thankfully most people in this country do see the need to educate each child to their full potential.
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:40pm
I would never make a generalized comment that all public schools in the US are good.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:59pm
i too find it odd she would think gt programs are useless but would allow her child to skip a grade. skipping a grade would have been a position of last resort for me. it maay seem trivial at a young age but even back then i couldnt get behind the idea of my dd graduating and going off to college at 16. heck, i wont even let her graduate early.

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