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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Edited 9/2/2007 4:52 pm ET by sild
Oh yeah, there are indeed public schools that can and do select their student body. For instance:
The Specialized High Schools of New York City are selective public high schools, established and run by the New York City Department of Education to serve the needs of academically and artistically gifted students. The Specialized High Schools Admissions Test (SHSAT) examination is required for admission to all the schools except LaGuardia, which requires an audition or portfolio for admission.
The nine specialized high schools, with their emphases, are:
* High School of American Studies at Lehman College (2002) (American history)
* Bronx High School of Science (1938) (mathematics and science)
* Brooklyn Latin School (2006) (humanities and the classics)
* Brooklyn Technical High School (1922) (engineering, mathematics, and science)
* Fiorello H. LaGuardia High School of Music & Art and Performing Arts (the arts)
* High School for Math, Science and Engineering at City College (2002)
(math, science, engineering, and architecture)
* Queens High School for the Sciences at York College (2002) (mathematics and science)
* Staten Island Technical High School (1988) (science and engineering)
* Stuyvesant High School (1904) (mathematics and science)
OT: Hey, when were you in Riverside, CA? I grew up there, from 2nd grade (1960) to the end of 9th (1967).
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
So then most women's opinons here are unknown then.
It's not just me. Seems to be societal. The most common comment I will get as a WM is to be asked "How do you do it?". People recognize that we have more on our plates because we WOH than we would if we were just another of our dh's dependents. Being financially taken care of makes things a lot easier.
Most SAHM's I know do want to return to work. Few are lifers. Most worry about the damage their SAH stint has done to their careers. The only SAHM I know who never plans on returning to work won't for that exact reason. She knows she trashed her career when she decided to SAH and doesn't want to deal with rebuilding it. So she made sure she was financially independent before she quit to SAH. (From the time they were married until the birth of their second child they banked her check and lived on his. After several years of that, she was set.)
Smart lady. I wish I could say she's happy with her choice. She isn't. She's bored but doesn't want to face restarting a career which takes hours and proving you are dedicated. She's smart enough to know she can't juggle her schedule with her kids and do that. This is why I stayed in the work force. I didn't want to face rebuilding a career either and knew that if I stayed, I had a better shot at working my way into a position that was flexible enough to work around my kids scheules as they got older. I swear, the older they get, the harder it is to WOH and keep all the balls in the air.
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