so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 8:21am

I am well aware of the fact that I may miss milestones, but there is definitely more of a chance that I will see them being at home with them.


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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 8:26am

"our children will only be little for a short period of time"

thank GOD. Seriously I hated the infant stage and barely tolerated the toddler stage, I am LOVING this stage (which Im' sure is the calm before the storm of adolescence and puberty). If Liza and I had had to spend all day every day together one of us would most likely be living on the other side of the country by now...LOL

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 8:39am

LOL!


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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 9:04am
OK, but then it is about what you love to do and choose to do, just as it is for many WOHMs. Either one is fine as far as I can see, as long as you are happy.
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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 9:21am
does your child know you place more value on *bigger* milestones than her first steps? i don't think one s/b measured over another...moreover,what i capture now is just as neat and important as what i captured when they were small. i remember dd1 being 6 months old and in hte care of a super,fantastic dcp most of the day. it is my opinion and instinct that she started crawling at her place before crawling for me. *m* would have never in her dreams shared that with me,though. she knew who milestones s/b saved for,what parents liked and expected and met it.

 

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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 9:29am
Some parents, some parents.
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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 9:33am
Well, I can totally agree with you on that.

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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 10:04am
The best is yet to come. I think that you will love having an adult child.


Edited 9/3/2007 10:21 am ET by texigan-again
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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 10:19am

I know that I do. And I can already tell that I'll love my relationship with Dylan when he is an adult.

Chris

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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 10:43am

Cute siggy.


"how do you drop your kids off everyday and miss all of their milestones.

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