so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 11:08am
Right, and all the more power to ya, as long as you do not expect me to do as you do.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 12:10pm

I always thought so, I guess others feel differently.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 12:23pm

i've woh ft for 17 years and never missed a milestone. ANY time that "I" saw a first, it was a first -- AND I saw lots of the practice leading up to the actual event.

also, being a sahm is NO guarantee that you'll see "firsts", LOL. My sahm found out that I could climb out of my crib when I toddled past her when she was on the phone. Oops, she missed me climbing out! Somehow it made not one whit of difference to her OR to me, LOL!

Oh, and as an educator, I have taken MUCH pride in my career -- as I hope you wish for in your children's teachers.

cArole

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 12:30pm

Oh wow, so not true in my experience.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 12:31pm

actually the bottom line is that parents should appreciate ALL of the milestones no matter who sees them -- there are some children who NEVER reach any of them.

cArole

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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 12:46pm

How did I drop them off every day? Quite easily because I knew that their day would be filled with fun & play & learning new things. And then they would come home and have fun & play & learn new things.

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and some of us were out of school for quite some time before having children. So, while you didn't have a career or "leave anything", many of us would have. Those 10 years represent yearly salary increases along with a COL raise. They represent 10 years of health insurance as well as seniority.

sure my children were "little" for a very short period of time, but I don't feel that I missed ANYTHING in their early years.

cArole

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 1:00pm

I think jealous might actually be a better word.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 1:13pm

Why do you feel that moving a child from private to public is blaming the school?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 1:14pm
Why do you think people would be jealous of people who put their children in private school? I know a few people who have their children in private school and had a friend in catholic school and I would never be jealous of them. Many people do it for the status symbol and not because the public schools are bad because they are not by me.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 1:28pm

Very well said.


PumpkinAngel

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