so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:16am

If a child is sleeping they aren't interacting with anyone. Sleeping time, IMO, doesn't count at home or dc. How much is a child napping at dc that would equal out the time a parent is working?

Robin

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:01am

Dylan napped for 2.5 hours at daycare (an average) and about 10 hours at home. He was at daycare 4-5 days a week, 6.5-7.5 hours a day. Call it 7 hours a day for 5 days. That's 35 hours minus 12.5 equalling 22.5 There are 168 hours in a week. Subtracting sleeping (nap and night) and daycare comes to 50.5 hours, Dylan was still at home twice as much as he was at daycare. I count nap time and bedtime at home as together hours because we did co-sleep. Dylan took his naps at home with dh.

Chris

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:27am


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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:31am

"Why would I want to be away from my children if I don't have to?


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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:42am

I was just about to post the same thing.

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:59am

"He didn't like that basically I was self sufficient and he knew I could take care of myself. "


My DH loves those characteristics in me.


"But now, I need to get my priorities straight because I am making more money than I was WOH so I probably need to cut back."


Please tell me that you're not going to hold yourself back in order to appeal to your DH's male ego. He should be proud of your accomplishments.

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:10am

"No I don't consider my husband a part-time Dad.


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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 6:23am
<<...Liza needs me way more as a 3rd grader than she did as a 3 year old.>> That's because daycare was an acceptable substitute when she was 3 yo. Now, no one but you and her father can do what needs to be accomplished. I've been a sahm to a 3rd grader and a 3 yo and my parenting skills were needed equally at both ages - just that timewise, I'm not needed as much once school starts.
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 6:26am
So if your children had a choice, they wouldn't want your husband to be a sahp?
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 6:30am
In their ideal world, my children would have me and DH home. Me too. But I'm pretty sure I know DH's answer!

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