so sick of hearing....

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Registered: 01-07-2004
so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 7:58am

I'm a sahm and I agree with a lot of what you've said here. I've disagreed with a lot too. But I would never be a sahm if we could not afford to pay for college for all of our children.

I had my college mostly paid for, but I paid every penny for my law school degree. Neither degree meant more. They were each equally as meaningful to me in my heart. The degree I paid for does not matter more to me because I paid for it. I think you may just be trying to justify why you're not setting aside money for college.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:01am
Were you here for the lawyer who recently revealed she was actually not a mom with a son? She has like, a dog or something. I'd been reading her posts for years! And I'm pretty sure she admonished my childrearing beliefs several times over the years!
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:04am
I repeat you are kidding right? Just because you think it does not make it so. I think some men and some women need a job to make them happy. I have known many women over the years and they would be better off with paying jobs. Just because you think women are better able to handle something does not make it so. You are aware you are over generalizing? You are aware there is a huge spectrum of differences in men and women alike? I really must be picking you up wrong. Sorry.
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Registered: 02-25-2004
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:12am
It has gotten pretty boring.
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Registered: 02-25-2004
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:15am
I am a contractor who works on design and development. I stay abreast of the changes by professional development and doing part time work to keep me in the field. I work mostly on a project by project basis.
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Registered: 02-25-2004
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:16am
Geez...when I was working we had twice that much extra and I didn't think we needed one.
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:18am

Up with the baby in the wee the wee hours rockin' in the computer chair...(Can I count that as time with baby (: )

I couldn't figure out how to reply to all although that is what I wanted to do. I reread this article and it is ridiculous how the author (from what I can tell this is a website where anyone who likes can publish articles) makes the leap from children do better with one on one instruction to mother's should cut back on work hours and make sure they do more for their kids. Apparently one on one instruction can't be accomplished by poor old non multitaking non nuturing dad or grandma and grandpa or anyone else. Does anyone else find this as silly as I do?

I really love this board the more people make judgements on things that WOHMs or SAHMs do the more I realize it is not an issue to me at all it is a problem of narrow minds.

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Registered: 02-25-2004
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:18am
I really, really hope that my children get scholarships. I was blessed to not have to pay as much for my school because of some scholarships. Be sure those kids apply to them things early and apply for everything. You never know what you might get.
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:19am
The time has nothing at all to do with the post I was replying to. You questioned why children that are close in age would need to go else where for socialization. I pointed out one reason. My first two DDs are two years apart in age which meant two years of one being in school while the other one was home.
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Registered: 02-25-2004
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:24am
I don't know. We are making about 1/3 the income when I was working. We have had to adjust.

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