so sick of hearing....

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Registered: 01-07-2004
so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:30am
Why are there so few sahds?
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:31am
You know, and I think I have stated this before I am not a big fan of materials things for myself. However, I think you have convinced me I'd prefer to see someone show off their wealth with things rather than people who have enough money to make the choice to stay home or not pass judgement on other people's decisions.
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:42am
Tradition? Society changes. I guess I just don't believe that men are not capable. I think I may have misunderstood you though. You are not saying all women are happy SAH are you? Or that it does not matter if a woman is unhappy doing it? I am pretty sure I misunderstood you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:01am
I have no idea.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:04am
It's not gender specific.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:10am
If by all you mean family and work I believe I have it all. I think I have a great balance in my life. Several friends of mine do too. Guess you could take a poll.
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:11am
OOps sorry that was meant for sehorse.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:12am
Why do you hope your kids get scholarships? You posted that when you were working you had $80,000 of extra income.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:13am
I'd call giving up 2/3 of one's household income more than an "adjustment."

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:29am

It's a routine you don't get to establish fully. Your superiors dictate much of it. Aren't there weeks you'd rather not travel, while other weeks would be more compatible for travel depending on your family's particular schedule?

Don't you think you'd be happier as your own boss?

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