so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:35am

I was talking about your earlier post where you say straight out you were a sahm who put your child in dc.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pssahwoh/?msg=17930.56

The context of your meaning is that your post followed Sewchris' post discussing putting Dylan in dc which was near full-time care. It struck me that you misrepresented the few hours you actually used dc as a sahm in order to curry favor with the wohms here. I found that odd.

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:43am

"And the bottom line -- whether growing up in a sah or woh household -- given GOOD parents, the kids will grow up pretty much the same."

I totally agree.

Robin

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:59am
It's turning into a mini-poll. But there's no need to take such a poll on this board. I think we all know what the answer from the wohms here will be. ;)
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:30am
I'm guessing that most of us on the board, WOHM or SAHM or anything in between, are pretty satisfied with our lives because most of us are in the very fortunate position of being able to change things that aren't satisfying. So if there were something lacking in the individual's definition of "having it all," that person would be able to adjust her life to fit her vision differently.
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:34am
I agree oh wise one. Just as I said in the post down below I don't waste time trying to figure out who has it 'harder" I also don't waste time on how others define 'having it all" -- I have all that I want or need right now except maybe new carpet for my living room LOL. I don't really care how others define it b/c they're not living my life and vice versa.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-04-2003
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:54am

Hi it's nice to see another SAHM!

 

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:57am

LOL Sorry about that. But you had only 8 years of homeschooling. You went to 8th grade when you were 13.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:59am

Um, a structure imposed by others (my clients and my boss) IS an external schedule.


Why would I be happier as my own boss?

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Registered: 09-07-2006
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 11:15am
I consider homeschooling to start at birth. :)

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 11:20am

I had 9 weeks of maternity leave. Dylan was watched at home by his sisters and dh until he was 6 months old. Then he went to daycare 2-3 days a week. By the time he was 18 months old, he was in daycare 4-5 days a week. My working and Dylan going to daycare was best for him. Dylan is not cut out to be an only child but is one by default. So going to a family daycare where he got the multiple ages/stages of a group dynamic in a family setting was best for him. The days that he spent at home, he was a different boy. Restless, bored, and demanding attention. The days that he was at daycare was filled with activity, noise, and kid-generated chaos. All things that he thrives on. Those differences haven't changed now that he is 9, going into 4th grade. I just wish that school was year-round.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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