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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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I was talking about your earlier post where you say straight out you were a sahm who put your child in dc.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pssahwoh/?msg=17930.56
The context of your meaning is that your post followed Sewchris' post discussing putting Dylan in dc which was near full-time care. It struck me that you misrepresented the few hours you actually used dc as a sahm in order to curry favor with the wohms here. I found that odd.
"And the bottom line -- whether growing up in a sah or woh household -- given GOOD parents, the kids will grow up pretty much the same."
I totally agree.
Robin
Yes. We. Did.
Hi it's nice to see another SAHM!
Shari mother to
LOL Sorry about that. But you had only 8 years of homeschooling. You went to 8th grade when you were 13.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Um, a structure imposed by others (my clients and my boss) IS an external schedule.
Why would I be happier as my own boss?
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I had 9 weeks of maternity leave. Dylan was watched at home by his sisters and dh until he was 6 months old. Then he went to daycare 2-3 days a week. By the time he was 18 months old, he was in daycare 4-5 days a week. My working and Dylan going to daycare was best for him. Dylan is not cut out to be an only child but is one by default. So going to a family daycare where he got the multiple ages/stages of a group dynamic in a family setting was best for him. The days that he spent at home, he was a different boy. Restless, bored, and demanding attention. The days that he was at daycare was filled with activity, noise, and kid-generated chaos. All things that he thrives on. Those differences haven't changed now that he is 9, going into 4th grade. I just wish that school was year-round.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
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