so sick of hearing....

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:11pm

I don't think homeschooling is the best option for most children.

 

Shari mother to

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:13pm

So are you only addressing quality time versus quantity time or not?


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PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:17pm

"I think children need to interact and learn from sources other than just me"

uh...unless that source is their daycare? didn't you also take issue with children in daycare learning from those OTHER than their parents?

 

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:17pm

Well since almost everyone in mine and my DH have been in some branch of the military I don't see that as a bad thing.

 

Shari mother to

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:20pm

Did she state that the reason she isn't going to fully fund her kids' educations is because she is a SAHM? I know of many DWOH families who do not believe in fully funding their kids' education. Finances don't affect their decision at all.

Robin

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:21pm

I think what she's getting at is that these are not the best times to be jumping into military service -- nor does your history guarantee that one or more of your children won't end up being strictly a pacifist for whom military service, even to pay for schooling, is not an option.

look I didn't get a free ride either , I had a combo of loans, scholarships and 'limited' help from my parents to the best of my ability. That's what i hope to do for Liza as well but being a single mom I know i have to put retirement planning first. But I"m trying to do more than just 'hope for the best' too -- I know I'll have some part to play in her education and i"ll do that to the best of my ability.

 

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:22pm

I count the time we are awake together.

 

Shari mother to

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:22pm

<<I don't think homeschooling is the best option for most children.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:25pm

No, she didn't and I agree....college funding is a hot topic and it's not sah/woh divided at all.


My questions were about her statement that she expected her kids to work to pay for college, I was just curious as to what kind of job pays what college tuition is expected to be in 12-18 years.

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:26pm

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I disagree I think now is the best time to be jumping into military service they need people more now than when I joined.

 

Shari mother to

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