so sick of hearing....

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:06pm
It's also not always technically an option. I have to wonder how it might be handled if a child whose parents planned for his/her education to be funded in this manner ended up realizing that s/he was medically or otherwise ineligible for military service.


Edited 8/21/2007 3:07 pm ET by lauren1063

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:23pm
I totally agree, for the political reasons and for the reasons that they need more people than ever. They have lowered their standards substantially. I think this would have an effect on who you are working with and that can be a bad thing. Especially in combat!

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:32pm

<> Kids are all different. Can you imagine a situation where it's just a wash? No appreciable difference at all?

My kids did great in dc. I can tell because I have, for the most part (LOL!), a fairly charming almost 16 year old young man. He was a dc kid.

Carole

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:36pm
Great Post, Lois!
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:39pm

in order to be my own boss, I'd have to start my own school! No thanks -- then I wouldn't be teaching, LOL!

I think I'll remain where I've been for 18 years. I love the principal that I work for -- she's also a friend.

Carole

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 4:37pm

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Just wondering what makes you say that?

 

Shari mother to

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 4:40pm

I'm not who decided that public school starts for children age 5.


Shari

 

Shari mother to

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 4:48pm
I'm confused. You send your kids to school because someone else tells you to? As far as I know, schooling (be it formal school or homeschool) isn't compulsory at the age of 5. Nor is one actually required to send a child to school, ever. So why did you choose to send your child away from your side for 30+ hours per week when it was not necessary? If it wasn't a good thing for your child at the age of 4, why did it become a good thing when your child turned 5?
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 5:21pm

It doesn't start at age 5 in my state.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 5:29pm

Here you go: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070810/ap_on_go_ca_st_pe/army_creative_recruiting

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Beyond the Iraq war, the military says other factors have affected its ability to recruit. More high school graduates are going to college, and the economy is strong, providing lots of civilian jobs. At the same time, only three of 10 people between 17 and 24 fully meet the military's standards.

Less obvious factors have also decreased the recruitment pool. They include higher obesity rates, more people diagnosed with mental health conditions such as attention-deficit disorder, more criminal citations due to the increase of the drinking age from 18 to 21.

"The numbers of people who meet our enlistment standards is astonishingly low," said Michael Dominguez, principal deputy undersecretary of defense.

Among the changes that have helped attract more recruits:

• Increasing to $20,000 the bonus for troops who join by Sept. 30 and leave for boot camp within a month.

• Raising the enlistment age to 42.

• Allowing recruits to come in with non-offensive tattoos on their hands and neck.

• Offering a $2,000 bonus to Army soldiers who refer a new recruit.

• Enlisting recruits who don't meet weight standards and must trim down their first year.

• Advertising that targets potential recruits' parents.

• Increasing the number of recruits with general education diplomas rather than regular high school diplomas.

• Creating a more pleasant boot camp environment.

• Sending "gung-ho" soldiers fresh from boot camp or war zones back to their hometowns to visit old friends and schoolmates to promote the Army.

• Increasing to more than 15 percent the number of Army and Army Reserve troops given waivers for medical and moral reasons or for positive drug and alcohol screen tests.

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