so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 12:44am
Ummm... so what? What does what you think you need have to do with anything? I don't need a minivan, or a station wagon, so should I act all self righteous that anyone else could possibly think they need one?
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 12:50am

So if your children had a choice, they wouldn't want your husband to be a sahp?"

You missed my point. Point is, if my children had a choice, we'd both be at home, they'd be eating pizza for breakfast, ice cream bars for lunch, and going to bed at midnight (they are 4). Oh and swimming in the pool all day long, no sunblock or sun suits. They'd be riding their bikes in the living room, etc. etc. etc. My point is --- I don't think being a great parent is about allowing our children to choose what's best for them (let alone us). That's our job.

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 12:51am
Social conditioning. My dh was one.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 12:52am

I want my husband to be the leader in my house and to work to take care of us."

Oh boy:) I'm guesssing this is not the real mccoy.

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 12:56am
Not PNJ, but I spent several years self employed. I hated it.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 12:59am
Were you under the impression you weren't already debating with several? Amazingly enough, there are SAHMs who think you are incorrect. Including me.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:03am
Just wanted to say... we love your mom to pieces! :)
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:18am

Aw, shucks. Thanks.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:38am
Ohhh I was so happy when the last diaper went. My son was potty trained for a whopping 2 weeks when my daughter was born.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:40am
I just keep thinking about the time value of money. I mean, if you don't want to help, don't. Invest a little money when they are babies, and make them pay back your original investment. (sigh)

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