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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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So if your kids don't do as you did, they're SOL? Given the current state of affairs WRT the military, there is NO WAY I'm telling my kids they have to enlist if they want to go to school and even then, I don't believe they pay for it all. (they did not for my marine SS)
College costs are increasing at a double digit rate and there is no sign of it stopping. Your my way or the high way approach could leave your kids high and dry even if they take your way.
Really they have.
Kids need to be free to make their own decisions. IMO, parents should not be setting them up to HAVE to do something like enlist to get an eduction. My SS did that and found that what the military would pay for wasn't exactly what he wanted. He ended up just doing his time and getting out without a degree. They were pushing him a direction he didn't want to go, which made the scholarship useless. to him.
WHen I had my kids, I was prepared for them getting sick but I got sick just as often.
Fortunately, get it now or get it later has paid off. Now my kids and I get nothing. We've had it all. The doctor says all the exercise their immune systems got made them stronger. I hope he's right. Seems to have worked.
Bluntly, he doesn't care that you missed him rolling over or his first tooth. I have no idea what firsts I saw and which I didn't but I've come to the conclusion it doesn't matter. Life does not change if I did/did not see my dd's roll over for the first time. Everything goes on exactly the same.
Do yourself a favor. Let it go. Enjoy the time you have with your kids. Guilt and remorse will just sap you of strength and then you won't even enjoy the time you have.
Good luck.
If you disagree that SAH is better for your children then why do it?
Shari
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