so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:22am
There may be reasons why it is better for the family as a whole to have a SAHP. I was a SAHP for over 6 years. I think my kids would have been equally fine with going to daycare and having two WOHPs. For our family as a whole, however, there were advantages with me SAHP.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:23am

Your right not every branch of the military pays 100% tuition.

 

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:26am

I've never said it is best for ALL children to have a SAHP.

 

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:27am
um...because it's no ones business but mine if I work for 'things' ....and 'things' are defined different for each of us...

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:34am

I'm pretty sure this is a debate board and I am entitled to my opinion.

 

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:35am
as am I.... I was giving my opinion BACK...hence the whole debating concept....

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:39am
Because every woman who chooses to WOH does so for more than "things"?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:40am
That is great that you can make that much money working from home. Doing what, if I may ask? If my dh felt bad that I could support myself and my kids, I would really want another dh with sturdier cujones. Are you thinking of cutting back so he won't start feeling insecure again?


Edited 8/22/2007 8:44 am ET by sild
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:41am

I LIKE my things....AND my salary helps me afford extras (like music lessons & religious school) for my children.

Carole -- who lived without MANY extras while being a single wage earner (oops, single mother) -- and it TRULY sucked big time.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:52am

Well I live without many extras and for me to be there for those first moments of my children

 

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