so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 9:56am
Yes, you are correct, even wrong opinions are allowed here. ;)
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 9:57am
....;-)

 

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:00am
The thing is, I judge people all the time. I judge people based on bad or rude behavior, their character, things individual to that person, all the time. (Intelligence... big one... LOL) It just seems inaccurate, illogical, and unintelligent to judge someone based on their work status. I mean, it's one of those things you can't base a generalization on. (Well, apparently some people can.)
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:05am
They're only 37 once too.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:17am
I think you might be mixed up about the meaning of the word "If". Re read, I think you'll see that I didn't say you did.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:17am
That's really fine. I support the right of every woman to do what makes HER happy, as long as the rest of the family is thriving, too. I work outside the home by choice, because it's what makes ME happier in the long run, and my family is thriving, too.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:23am

You really haven't defined better or what the consequences are for not achieving that better.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:28am

<< I said why work for "things" if you can afford to SAH.>>


Things are pretty subjective as the posts have shown.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:29am

Why are you entitled to an opinion about how others live their life?


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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:31am
I also have never bought into the martyrdom attitude of 'LOOK at all we have sacrificed for you" ... I think the martyr complex is right up there with the victim complex as a big sucking waste of time and energy. I always say Live how you want, buy what you can (and want), do what you can and want, be who you want and stop trying to out sacrifice everyone else...I really don't care what other people 'give up' or what I can or can't afford..and I never understood why other people should or could give two shakes about me...

 

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