so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:42pm
You ARE his main influence -- nothing can take away from that -- don't let anyone make you believe that you're not raising your son - of course you are.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:43pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:49pm

<<When I say 'you' I mean it in a general term. We have been posting here for days stating that there are folks out there who would rather work 80+ hours a week to afford fancy cars and houses than to spend time with their kids.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:50pm

That's one thing I make sure I tell all of my dc parents, the brand new parents especially.

No matter how terrific of a provider you have, or how many hours a day they spend with them..they NEVER forget who MOM is.

That's a fact.

Sue

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:58pm

actually her stance is overpowering when it allows for no other options. Her stance is that sah is the only way to raise kids -- paraphrasing, sure, but her viewpoint comes through loud & clear.

What it doesn't take into account is that MANY of us have been parenting a LONG, LONG time...I've been a parent for 16 years and I have 3 children. One of those is a special needs child. I've been a wohm the ENTIRE time.

Don't you think that after 16 YEARS and 3 children (now 4 with the addition of my step-daughter) that I just might KNOW how to go about this thing we call parenting????

Carole

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 2:00pm

So AGAIN, what about the wohd whose wife is sah? Is it okay if HE works 80 hours per week? There are a few sahms on this board whose dh's work those kinds of hours.

Carole

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 2:02pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 2:03pm

We'll add it to the list.


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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 2:05pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 2:06pm

You work 80+ hours a week to afford fancy cars and houses rather

PumpkinAngel

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