so sick of hearing....

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-08-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 2:43pm

Can't that happen in a family with a sahp, too? There's no guarantee that the sah parent won't be out at the country club leaving the kids with the nanny. So, her point is not a very convincing one. Good parents, regardless of work status, are good parents, and materialism is not tied to work status.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 2:49pm

you know one of the things that meant the most to my kids? after the separation, I was able to scrape together about $140 -- two nights lodging in a small, rinky-dink motel in Wildwood, NJ. We ate at the early-bird specials -- and as cheaply as possible. I only had $5 to give each kid to spend on the boardwalk. But ya know what? I am so proud of myself for making that trip happen. And we created some wonderful memories.

Carole

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 2:52pm

I truly is those moments that make it bearable. I remember how I made Liza a full part of choosing my jeep -- we testdrove all sorts of cars together and had a blast and when we drove off the lot with the jeep (me feeling So proud at the deal I negotiated all on my own!) we were just giggling with excitement and Liza said "momma we should tell the world to LOOKOUT cuz we're in a BIG Jeep with BIG wheels!"

we still say that over three years later!

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 2:53pm

in the district that i work in there are MANY parents like that. one parent got miffed at us because we NEEDED her to come in to talk about her daughter's lack of progress -- she was reluctant to reschedule her tennis lesson.....

Carole

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:01pm

No I attended a state university and have a B.

 

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:01pm
Good.
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