so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:03pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:04pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:04pm
hey there are a LOT of things I can't afford either, I'm a singl mom who works for a nonprofit after all, these are jsut some things I choose to 'splurge' on -- but I don't go around listing things I can't afford in a way to heighten the comparisons between me and people who make more money than I. I spend what I can on what I choose to and they do the same. *shrug* comparisons are pointless.

 

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:05pm

what affects how I feel? what post are you responding to?

I "chime in" b/c it's a debate board and that's what i'm here to do, that's what we're all here to do. Chime away say I! Let' the chimes ring out! Have we not heard the chimes at midnight?

 

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:07pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:07pm
as have you over the last few days too, right? LOL.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:08pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:09pm
Oh, I am by far my own worse enemy! I think I would be way more relaxed if I did listen to what others say! I imagine in 10 years I will look back on it all as wasted, just like I looke at all those teen years I wasted thinking I was fat. Hahaha...ooohhhh...
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:09pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:11pm

wow. you really think that MOST people are working for material things? Even though the median income in the country is something like 44K????

just wow.

Carole

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