so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:27pm

I think we basically agree.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:29pm
Not by the subject matter.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:30pm
The ironic thing about your post is that there are a LOT of people on here with open minds and there has been more than one occassion where I"ve said to someone "I've changed my mind, I see what you're saying now" and others have done the same, but in order for open minded debate to work , BOTH sides of the issue at hand have to be openminded. Finding one other poster to agrees lock stock and barrel with YOUR position does not make the two of you the only 'open minded' peopel on the board -- there are women on the board I have vehemently argued with in one thread and sided with in another and traded jokes in another thread. Being open to all ways of life, being open to hearing others experiences, to listening to different ways of living and the ability to say "I never thought of it that way" is what being open minded is about. I've done that before and I know I"ll do it again... as have many other posters here. That's what makes for good hearty debate.

 

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:33pm

So again, what does it have to do with my question to someone besides yourself?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:34pm

Again, who is doing that in this debate?


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:36pm

just wow, again. I think shari is probably one of the least open-minded people judging by her stance that only a sahp will do.

Most of us are MUCH farther along and know that work status makes no difference whatsoever. We're open-ended so much so that it's much more of a "whatever works for you and your family -- go for it". Most of us have NEVER tried to tell anyone else how THEY should structure their lives.

ROFLOL. Shari open minded posts? common sense posts? HARDLY.

Carole

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:38pm

First off let me say that we do see making our children pay for their education as a positive.

 

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:39pm

our monthly budget includes a certain amount we're able to sock away for short term,long term savings,retirement,kids iras. there's a sense of humiliation i would feel if i had to call my dad for help,financially...but i do agree about being able to afford sah in lieu of material wealth and things. at the end of the day,that's really all extras are.




Edited 8/22/2007 4:23 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:41pm

Hey, feel free to chime in any old time.


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:43pm
thank you! I have been practicing on my chiming after all... I'd hate it to go to waste.

 

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