so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:43pm

Oh, because she agrees with you on a topic where you both believe there is only one choice?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:45pm

So you really can't afford to sah, but you are anyway?


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:48pm

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

Shari mother to

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:50pm
outside judgement of a msahm,what point are you trying to make? do you really think a child's future,her/his success really depends on whether or not the tuition check is cut by mom and dad? i don't think so but i'd be happy to listen to evidence that proves otheriwse.

 

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:53pm

I agree. IMO, instant gratification is the difference between my generation and my parents'. I remember, as a child, one of our neighbors buying a brand new car. I was 10 and had never ridden in a brand new car! People only bought cars that they could pay cash for and it was certainly something to brag about if you could afford a new one.

With regard to college financing, I agree that the character building possibilities certainly vary from situation to situation, but I still think that contributing, on some level, to their own education costs is a positive thing. Do your boys pay anything toward actual school expenses?

Robin

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:56pm

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First of all she said post on other boards about this topic.

 

Shari mother to

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:03pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:04pm

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If you've been a WOHM the entire time how can you see both sides of the picture?

 

Shari mother to

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:07pm

I should clarify that it's only the older one who's in college now, but we'll follow the same blueprint with DS2 unless he

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:10pm
Seems to me you're just as fond of extras as the next gal.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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