so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:35pm
Thanks! What are dietetics? Are you a kind of nurse?
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:35pm

Wasn't it a question?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:37pm
Right, so the "wrong thing" is being neglectful, not working.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:37pm

Um, that post wasn't to you....unless you are posting under two names today?


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:38pm

Well by putting four kids in daycare I don't think even with working I'd be taking home much money.

 

Shari mother to

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:41pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:42pm

Well someday I might become a dietitian.

 

Shari mother to

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:47pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:49pm

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PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:49pm

yes, you've been a parent 10 LESS years than me and yet you spout stuff like this:

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How can I get through to you that having a job did not, IN ANY WAY prevent bonding with my three children? In fact, the FACT that I've been at it for 10 more years (I have a son that will turn 16 next week) and that I have a son who will, out of the blue, come up and throw his arms around me and say "i love you, mom" -- I think that says it all.

SOME jobs will come and go. and NO, money isn't "everything", BUT if you don't have enough of it (and many of us can NOT make it on one income -- I barely scraped by), then it sure is "everything".

Bottom line -- You are welcome to believe that your sah creates the bond with your children, but those of us that woh KNOW that work status (or lack thereof) has NOTHING at all to do with it.

Oh, and I can easily see both sides of the picture. My best friend was a sahm for 8 years. My mom was a sahm for 12 years. SO WHAT? In fact, if you must know, as a TEACHER, even "I" sah for 181 DAYS per year.

Carole

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