so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:49pm
Which would make it all about you, and not your kids. There is nothing wrong with choosing what makes you happy, but I find it annoying when people try to justify their choices by claiming that the choices are made for the sake of others. Also, since your choice is essentially a selfish one (not in a bad sense, but made to make YOU happy), then why is it different from someone working because it makes her happy?
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:50pm

<<We do just fine on one income we don't drive fancy cars or things like that but who said I can't afford to SAH?>.


You did.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:50pm

EXACTLY!!!


Shari

 

Shari mother to

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:52pm

utterly ridiculous. my mom went to work when I was 12, sisters were 10 & 6. Her parenting didn't change at all, LOL! Same with my best friend -- Umm, no change in parenting when she went back to work.

Carole

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:54pm

It's also a double edge sword.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:54pm

"I think part of being a good parent is taking time off temporarily from full time work to stay at home while they are not old enough to go to school."


Why do you think that?

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:55pm

Well I guess, if one wishes to debate things that aren't being said...okay.


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:56pm

Look at it however you want yes there have been some things that came up unexpectedly and we borrowed money.

 

Shari mother to

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:00pm
Household income.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:03pm

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I still don't see why? and is that till ALL of the children go to school? so in my case that would have been 10+ YEARS as a sahm....

You know what? I've woh ft for 16 years -- YES all through their growing up years -- no need to "take time off" because at about 35-40 hours per week, I have been WELL able to RAISE my own children -- and raise them well.

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OKAY! I have to LOL! at that. "trying to outperform, outimpress and outdo those around" me????? ROFLOL! I'm a TEACHER. The only ones that i have to impress are my students' parents as well as the administrators. My students seem to think that I'm a pretty cool teacher and they love the stories that I share about my own kids.

Addicted to my lifestyle? Yeah, I like our yearly one-week summer vacation to the jersey shore. I like being able to go to our national support group conference for our middle dd's disability. I like being able to keep the gray out of my hair, as well as color on my nails & toes. I also like being able to afford good shoes. I like being able to pay $500 for my son to attend driving school and $100 per month for dd to have singing lessons....Are these examples of overspending? NOPE, not in my book. Gained by overworking???? HARDLY.

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do you even realize that the MAjORITY of dc kids are in care only 32 hours per week and that the VAST MAJORITY (except for those parents who have no choice but to work night-shift) don't have night-time or weekend nannies or dc?????

talk about having NO real understanding of the issues of most wohms....GEESH.

Carole

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