so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:42pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:46pm
I have read the posts. What you posted was confusing, to put it charitably. You seem to be saying that you are currently making more money than you were as a FT WOH, and in another post you said that you gave up a good job and are now making ends meet. The two statements are at odds, don't you see?
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:47pm

just one more reason that i woh -- same paycheck every two weeks -- except the weeks that don't have deductions (yeah!).

Carole

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:49pm
Yes, it was a cute, little attempt at a dig.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:56pm

I think men need a job to be happy. They need work and structure and purpose. I have known many sahds over the years and they would be better off with paying jobs. Women can better handle the lack of structure SAH."

That is horse poo. Absolutely sexist and pure opinion. Uneducated opinion at that.
Not every man needs work *for* structure and purpose; anymore than every woman needs to be at home with her children. Thank GOD most the people I know IRL have evolved beyond that level of thinking.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:59pm

Ah the navally focused pov, yet again.
We believe SAH is the best for our children -- but -- newsflash -- we don't feel its best for every family, every set of parents, every circumstance.

Go figure.

MM

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:00pm

We know. If it is social conditioning, then that supports what I said. It may explain why adult men can't handle being a sahd with as much aplomb as most sahms do. And why men generally don't do well without a job at all. You've known lots of men happily unemployed year after year though able-bodied?

You discussed that your DH when he was a sahd didn't enjoy it much. He did return to work and you've been the family's sahp for years. That's been the experience of another sahd discussed here.

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