so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:02pm
I twisted nothing. I asked a simple question and did not get a straight answer, still haven't really. I am not sure what the job offer has to do with any of this.
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:07pm

Oh, an internal versus an external structure. Is that the latest corporate jargon? lol.

<> I simply asked. It's the aspiration of many attorneys I know - make partner, become an officer or go out on their own. It's often a natural progression for the many to whom independence is important. If not, it's better to be simply associated with a private firm or subordinate staff counsel.

My DH is much happier being his own boss, yes.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:10pm
You have stated many things, but you have not actually stated that working (on the part of parents) harms children. The things you have stated do, however, imply that. Once again though, you forgot to answer the question you were asked. In case you forgot, it was for you to please state how you think working (again, on the part of parents) harms children.
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:15pm

If my 8 years of experience SAH and knowing SAHDs is wrong, then prove it. Don't sling personal insults my way.

Your DH going to such great lengths to become an actuary was undeniable indication he was not happy being a sahp and simply preferred to work.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:22pm
It's a little different being a lawyer.
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:23pm
Excellent question!
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:24pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:32pm

If my 8 years of experience SAH and knowing SAHDs is wrong, then prove it. Don't sling personal insults my way."

You made a comment -- your opinion. Its easily disproved. There are many SAHD's I know who are very happy. Many SAHM's who are miserable. Wala, your "theory" down the drain.

Your DH going to such great lengths to become an actuary was undeniable indication he was not happy being a sahp and simply preferred to work."

Horse poo. He passed his exams, and decided he preferred being a SAHD. Which he is. He's very happy. If he werent, he'd change his situation. He gets regular offers from former colleagues and people he does do some consulting work for to work full time. He turns them down. And believe it or not, these are 7 figure roles. So your theory just doesnt stand up.

Oh and he's part of a SAHD's group. There are 10 dads actively involved. I'd say 8 of them are very very happy. Probably more than you'd find at most SAHM's groups.

MM

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:34pm

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You can...unless you are a sahm using irrefutable logic on a board where you are completely outnumbered by wohms, lol! I really like your point: <>

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 6:34pm

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