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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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I really think it depends on the child.
DD1 has always tended to take what we give her for granted. I think that paying some of her own college costs was a good thing for her.
But DD2 and DD3 have always been very appreciative of the thing we give them. I do not think that them paying college expences added anything to their character etc.
But in our case it really doesn't matter if it is a good thing or a bad thing for kids to pay for some of their college expences because we can not afford to gie them a free ride, in order for them to go they have to pay some.
So you didn't get any financial help from family after high school? No money from anyone for college applications? college/law school tuition? college/law school room and board? That's great if you did it all on your own.
ETA: and your DH too? Neither you nor he got any financial help from the family after high school?
Edited 8/22/2007 7:06 pm ET by sehorse
And that is where that, again?
Shari failed to offer any support for her statements on sah except that it made her happy and, oddly enough, her children seemed to happier and better bonded when she sah. The irrefutable logic there was that she was unhappy as a woh and that affected the relationship with her family.
Some people can't balance woh and stress-free family life; some can't balance sah and stress-free family life (that would be me). If you in a fortunate position to choose, go for the one that works best for you. Seems irrefutable to me.
After high school, my parents said they would buy me a new wardrobe, new car and a down payment on a co-op if I didn't go to college. Or they'd give me a full ride to college, TR&B, (and plenty of air fare to travel home for vacations too).
*I* don't know of anyone whose parents stopped helping them financially completely right after high school. Yet, you've done it all by yourself it seems, including paying your way through college. (I wonder if some of the wohms here are neglecting to mention to you that their families helped them with college! God forbid your parents may have helped you with your water bill one month!)
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It's quoted in my post. It's Shari's comment to Mcfurleysawesome. Do you really think a parent would SAH for almost a decade if she didn't think it was better than WOH? Not equal. Better.
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