so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:06pm

Why would making more money make you bankrupt?
Anyway, he had a 15 year "rock star" career in investement banking before "retiring." In his industry, at what he did, these salaries are the rule not the exception for higher level guys. And sadly, most of them are guys!

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:06pm

"so part of why you sah is because you couldn't afford dc for three/four kids??? why didn't you just SAY that like 200 posts ago?"

Because then you loose the martyr badge.

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Registered: 08-08-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:08pm
For her family or universally?
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:15pm

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Well said. I think this is more of a support board than a debate board. Women come here for many reasons having nothing to do with debate. The fact that there are so few sahms here - and people like you who work but concede there is at least an ounce of value in SAH - does make this even less of a true debate.




Edited 8/22/2007 8:06 pm ET by sehorse
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:24pm
Can you review again why we're not supposed to enjoy being a parent? I luuuuved seeing the firsts. My kids are older now so the firsts have been replaced with them making me laugh hysterically at least several times a day ~ which I will miss greatly when they go back to school. Since when is parenting about NOT enjoying the moments with your children? Why have children if we can't enjoy them?
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:34pm
What?
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:38pm
Great point! You just can't win.
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:47pm

You're absolutely right. I'm a sahm but no way am I saving for my kids' college ~ I'm saving up for my grandchildren's college and grad schools! (We're continuing a family tradition started by DH's great-grandfather.)

Among the many, many sahms I know, all expect and appear to have the means to pay for their children's college.

But I'm sure the MWOHMs here are also saving for their grandchildren's college and grad schools. ;)

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:49pm

Hi, back! You are so outnumbered here, but you're doing a great job. There are a lot of nuances to my feelings on the sah/woh issue but that's why I like this board.

Welcome.

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Registered: 02-25-2004
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:06pm

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