so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:07pm
You're forgetting me. I've been both.
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:08pm

Did Mrfurly... say that sah was good for her family or universally best for all families? What was the irrefutable argument that Shari shared with the board or maybe just mrfurly? Are you saying a sah like Mrfurly can't debate the assertion that sah is best when the other wohp can afford all the necessities.

Heck, I'll personally concede that a sah or woh IS best in many situations, though not in mine; I'm a ctwah.

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:10pm
What's even funnier is that you imagine that the reason people disagree with you is because they don't understand you. I, for one, understand you perfectly. I just think you are wrong.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:13pm
This is just from recollection, but I think she makes so much money that she needs to scale back, yet she can't afford an extra value meal without her dh working overtime.
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Registered: 10-04-2003
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:26pm
I agree!

 

Shari mother to

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:27pm
ROFLOL!!!!! OMG! I've never heard anything so funny in my life!
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:33pm
That wasn't a shot at character. Whose character did you think it was a shot at, and why?
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:33pm

i don't think there's been but one or two mwohms. Most of us are very, very middle of the road and would never deign to tell anyone else how to run their families. Unfortunately, the board gets hit with about 1-2 newbie msahms per month or so. They seenm to feel they have every right to tell all of the wohms how they're parenting so wrong -- because they're not sahms.

Carole

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:35pm

<> why is it that msahms think that wohms can't make time to enjoy their children?

does one NEED to sah in order to enjoy their children? that's news to me.

Carole

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:44pm
Why are you setting up those two things as a dichotomy? (Taking time off when the kids are under 5 vs. being materialistic, overspending, overworking, etc.)

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