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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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heck, i'm trying to figure out what "logic" you're using when you try to support a position that the only way to raise kids is to sah with them. You've talked about "working for things" but then ignore a whole side question about a wohd who supports his kids' sahm, works 80 hours per week to buy things....like several of the dh's of sahms on this very board.
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HECK, then count me in too! I've LOVED (for the most part, LOL!) raising my children and feel that, even though I woh, "I've" been the one who's cared for them as they have grown up. Imagine that!
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I'm a teacher. I've been teaching for almost 18 years. it's about as family-friendly as it gets.
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Mine LOVES that we SHARE the breadwinning together -- as we make, roughly, close to the same salary.
Carole
I've no problem with your context, just your logic.
So do all the sah/who/wah on this board. We just realize that "one size fits all" never fits all.
I'm pretty sure, with the exception of one or two htwoh posters, all woh/wah here have family friendly jobs, because we all ctwoh/wah. Why would anyone choose a non-family friendly job when they have a family?
Disclaimer: there may be mythical ctwohms who work for mcmansions and luxury cars, but, IMO, they are as prevalent as the martini drinking, country club sahs with the nannies raising the children, or the welfare bonbon eating, oprah watching sahms.
That's too bad, I guess I married a girly man, he was a great sahd for a year with our youngest. We are equals in parenting, and he had no problem with me being the main breadwinner. Now that we're both back at work, sometimes I make more, sometimes he makes more, but we're fairly even in earning potential. It's not a competition, but a cooperative marriage. But if gender-based roles work for you, go for it. It certainly wouldn't work for me or dh, and it is not the example I'll set for my children.
Have I ever made a comment about savings?
Shari
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Honestly I don't know all the requirements the Y has.
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Yes I have said that I think there is something wrong with teaching your kids that it is more important to have extra things and more expensive things.
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Well we're not borrowing we have in the past.
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Good point!
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