so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:14pm

Look at it this way, your getting a pedi could mean that the pedicurist could take her child to McD for a special treat.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:20pm
I think it's kinda fun when people contradict themselves.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:26pm

Since our experiences were/are so similar, it then comes down to why each of us sah'd. If Erica hadn't required a sahp, we would have been a dual income family during those years. And not needed to live off of family. I see no virtue in having a sahp, if it means that the bills can't be paid without borrowing.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:26pm

>>You discussed that your DH when he was a sahd didn't enjoy it much. He did return to work and you've been the family's sahp for years. <<

Really? I have? Because as far as I know, *I've* hated SAH and he loved every minute of it. You've only been on this board a couple of weeks, though, and so far, all I've said is that my dh was a SAHD, so I'll give you a pass on that one. Nevermind that I'm finishing school so he can be a SAHD for good... LOL.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:31pm

Oh? Do you know any?

It's not really that different. The difference between an external structure and having to make your own structure is very marked. Regardless of the profession.

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:33pm
Yeah, it would have been, had I ever said any such thing. LOL
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:36pm

Then, what about those of us who have been both a sahm and a wohm, and in my case, I've been all 3-sah, woh, and wah, who are arguing that, outside of special circumstances, there is no difference to the child between the 3 choices?

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:39pm

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:41pm

Exactly, in response to her comments, thus the implication.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:43pm
Irrefutable logic? Where? Could you please point out where I said I *didn't* think SAH was best for MY children? Subtle differences a little much for ya?

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