so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:46pm
You got that right. (Probably not in the way that you meant, however.)
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:47pm

Actually, I sometimes wish that I could have worked more then. Even though I really enjoyed homeschooling and would have missed that. Being a sah/wah and having more month than money sucked big time and wasn't much fun for the girls either.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:53pm
Boy, you are an inventor today. Noone said there was anything wrong with borrowing money to pay bills. Most of them just said it's disingenuous to say you can afford to SAH when you have to borrow money to do so. It sounds exactly like not being able to afford it.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:55pm
It's funny that you quoted her question but totally ignored my reply. It's only irrefutable if I had EVER said that. Which I didn't.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 10:58pm
Oh... dear.... the irony... it's choking me... aaaaaaaaahhhh.
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:01pm
I thought you were a software contractor to keep up your skills (woh), who occasionally your own boss as a wah. But whatever, you're self-identified as a sah (except when you're woh/wah). I'm personally confident enough in my path to not get bent out of shape by a challenge on a debate board in cyberspace; you've make the right choice to step away.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:06pm
Wouldn't that mean that your parents (or dh's) are paying for your kids? I would be saving for my grandkids too, if my kids were already paid for... LOL.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:12pm
Exactly. SAH isn't even best for my family all of the time. I can't imagine trying to say that it's best for other people, whose lives I'm not living, when it's not even best for mine all of the time. Then again, maybe other people live charmed lives where things never happen and nothing ever has to change.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:24pm
It's the difference between saying "I think having a SAHP is best for my children," and saying "I think having a SAHP is best for all children." See the difference? What you have been saying is the latter.
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:28pm
Sounds like we'd all do better in Lake Wobegon, the little town that time forgot and the decades cannot improve ... where all the women are strong, all the men are good-looking, and all the children are above average.

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