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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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It doesn't have anything to do with being a SAHM. It has to do with you going on and on about how easy it is to afford to SAH, while at the same time, you actually couldn't.
>>Why take the money out of savings where it is earning interest if I have a family member that can borrow it for free and I will pay it back? <<
I don't know, I can think of plenty of reasons I would rather use my own money and sacrifice my own interest than take someone else's money and prevent them from earning any interest on it. Pride comes to mind.
I did sah for over 10 years. And while it was best for Erica, it was at best neutral for Joy and Angela. Joy and Angela would have been fine either way. And working full time these last 9 years has been best for Dylan. Neither sah or woh or even wah is best for all children. Only each individual family can every make decision for themselves. One size never fits all, not even in the same family.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
I went back to work full time when my twins were 14 months. I went through similar pain/guilt for the first year -- but -- my DH was at home with the twins so I felt much better about it. In fact, I wouldnt have gone back if he wasnt.
I too work 70+ hours a week at least three weeks a month (when I'm not pregnant which I am now). In hindsight though -- I wouldnt have done it differently. Its helped my career tremendously, and now, I'm in a position to go part time (like 30 hours a week) but with a much higher profile than if I had done so after my twins were born. They just turned 4.
Anyway -- hang in there. Spt 18 isnt far and in my opinion, the first year might be harder for you --- but they really get more interactive and notice the time apart way more when they are 2 or 3. And you'll be around more with both of them from Spt on out!
I have no idea any more.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
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