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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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and, amazingly, I've woh for 16 years and certainly thought it was "better" for my family. However, I would NEVER even begin to say that it would be "better" for all other children & families.
Carole
"Yes I have said that I think there is something wrong with teaching your kids that it is more important to have extra things and more expensive things. Which is what you are doing if you are only working to be able to afford the "extras." I think that if you have the choice that a parent should stay home with their child if they can. It's their child to care for not someone else's. I understand some people don't have that option and I think then they are working to support the families needs not wants. If you are just working to prove that your a woman and can stand on your own to feet, why? Do you really need to work to prove that? I know I could support my family if I HAD to that for me is enough."
See now here's where I get confused. I' m a single mom so I guess I fall in your "have" to work category (although I worked when I was married too) but according to you I shoudl only be workig for the "needs" of my tiny 2 person family not the "Wants" -- sooooo does that mean I stop saving for our 2009 trip to Disney? Does that mean I bring back my ipod? Does that mean I cancel our day at a waterpark next week? Cuz obviously those are things we "WANT" but don't "NEED" yet I'm working so we can afford to do them...phew... I'm all tangled in your logic Man these rules are so confusing sometimes......
Yes. We. Did.
"Look at it this way, your getting a pedi could mean that the pedicurist could take her child to McD for a special treat."
...jez doin' my part to keep the economy rollin' ma'am.....
Yes. We. Did.
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